Swords in the Arena (RDI) for Dec 13 2008

DUEL Tormay · Post by **DUEL Tormay** » Sat Dec 13, 2008 5:32 pm

Dueling will still be happening tonight, I will just be a little late getting in there for calling the matches. Still goes until 3 AM, so come and get in your late night dueling fix!

DUEL Tormay · Post by **DUEL Tormay** » Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:07 am

As you probably noticed, I did not show for my scheduled shift. I would like to apologize for that and explain why.

For the last few weeks me and my girlfriend have been having a disagreement with me doing the whole RP thing. Namely, I was doing it at all and she didn't want me to. For a while, it looked like I was going to have to give up RoH and RDI altogether.

Instead of calling the duels, I was having a conversation/argument with her about it, trying to explain what it was and why there was nothing to worry about. She was convinced that I was going to leave her for the makebelieve world of RhyDin if I kept playing.

I know that a few people have had to leave because of a similar situation, and I didn't want to be one of those people. I really wanted to keep dueling and developing my characters, but at the same time, I didn't want to lose her because of that.

Not to worry though (at least for now... heh.) I decided to keep playing despite that, and she agreed that she would deal with it and try to learn to be ok with it, even though she will probably never understand why I like this stuf so much.

Sorry to disapoint you guys for one night, but I will try to stay on top of things better now that I have this sorted out with her.

-Alden

G · Post by G » Sun Dec 14, 2008 2:32 pm

That's very interesting... there's both sides I can understand, and even an overreacting thing I would say from her.

I guess the best way to describe it is that it's just a hobby. Like any game you play or anything like that. If she's not going to understand, then she's not going to understand. Best advice I can give is to not spend most of your time on the game and be sure to spend enough time with her.

But still, it's a hobby and a game, and it's something you enjoy doing. You wouldn't make her give up something she enjoys doing, right?

Tormay Eludes · Post by **Tormay Eludes** » Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:59 pm

No, I wouldn't make her quit anything she would like doing. I am pretty good about balancing my time between things. I don't spend all that much time here. Much less than I used to play video games.

Plus, I don't have much a chance to spend time with her, she goes to school across state. Things are better now though, and I hope that it stays that way.

Xenograg · Post by **Xenograg** » Sun Dec 14, 2008 7:42 pm

Our communities allow you to "see" your friends every night while still being at home. It is not like you are out drinking in bars with your buddies every night.

Xavior Mues · Post by **Xavior Mues** » Mon Dec 15, 2008 11:37 am

I'm going to put this out there and you can take it or leave it.

Women are like a nice pair of boots. Enjoy them when they are fun, but find another one when they get uncomfortable.

Women are like rain. If you're not wet you're not in the rain.

Women are like a football score. Numbers make all the difference and no one likes to keep playing on the same field.

Anubis Karos · Post by **Anubis Karos** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 11:18 am

I'll have what he's having, bartender.

Tormay Eludes · Post by **Tormay Eludes** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 1:27 pm

I think Anubis just proved you right and wrong at the same time Xeno-mun.

Anubis Karos · Post by **Anubis Karos** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 5:28 pm

Actually, I'd say that Xeric proved him right before I did.

Napoleon Bonarat · Post by **Napoleon Bonarat** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 10:39 pm

There's no chance of enticing her to play too?

Tormay Eludes · Post by **Tormay Eludes** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 9:06 am

I wish, she just doesn't understand why anyone would want to do roleplay. Maybe in a few years...

Then again, I maybe planning too far in advance. Whatever happens, happens, right?

Amaltea · Post by **Amaltea** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 6:05 pm

How about just teaching her how to duel?

Karen Wilder · Post by **Karen Wilder** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 10:58 pm

Tormay Eludes wrote:I wish, she just doesn't understand why anyone would want to do roleplay. Maybe in a few years...

Then again, I maybe planning too far in advance. Whatever happens, happens, right?

Teaching her how to duel is a good start.

Ask her to read some of the more involved storylines that are posted here and on the RDI site. Maybe scan through a few and find a couple that might catch her interest... like if there's a story about a musician and she's a musician (or wants to be).

Online Roleplaying is more than chatrooms... see if she's interested in the storytelling aspect.

Tormay Eludes · Post by **Tormay Eludes** » Sat Dec 20, 2008 11:18 am

Thanks Amal and Karen! Those are good ideas, I will see if either of them work.

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